Kundalini Awakening Coaching Isn’t a Formula: How I Let the Client’s Wisdom Lead the Way

One of my coaching clients found me through the Integrate Your Kundalini Awakening Course I run for people going through Awakenings.

They had noticed that when they focused on their breath (in one of the practices I shared), it triggered fear, and they wanted support to navigate both their practices, and fear.

Yes! I’d love to support you with that – I adore leading people into fear and beyond.

To do this, we travel down into the Underworld of the psyche and explore stored emotions, protective mechanisms, beliefs (often unconscious) and the general structure and functioning of the psyche.

This kind of somatic guidance requires an attitude of curiosity, wonder & loving-awareness plus NO agenda.

That piece is critical.

The moment we go into the Underworld to DO something specific – like heal X, Y, or Z – we’re attempting to impose our idea of what’s needed or wanted upon the natural awakening & liberation process of the psyche.

Instead, heading into the Underworld as part of the Kundalini Awakening coaching process is always about exploration and data gathering.

It doesn’t matter what happens when we go in – there’s no result to achieve, nothing to attain, nothing to get ‘right’.

This way of operating is one of the key teachings of my work – surrendering our attachment to results, achievement, and attainment and shifting into delighting in process. Of simply meeting what is, as it is.

When clients work with me for three months or more, they get a direct lived experience of turning inward to meet whatever is present, while learning how to navigate passed the protective mechanisms, and how to be curious and loving with everything that shows up.

Including fear.
Including numbness.
Including blank.

It is ALL welcome – and as the Underworld Guide, a big part of my role as a Kundalini Awakening Coach is to be genuinely excited and delighted about whatever shows up.

Receiving that transmission of love, joy, curiosity and wonder no matter what is a big part of the medicine that clients receive in our work together.

It undermines the usual good/bad projection that humans make onto emotional states, or nervous system states, and instead invites a delight in it ALL.

This is a game-changer, because the source of suffering is ultimately our rejection or, or grasping on to, specific emotions or states.

Suffering is not caused by the emotion or state itself.

And that grasping or rejection means that the emotion or state is not able to flow or complete, and it becomes stuck in the system. Most humans live like this all the time, and everything gets suppressed or repressed. This can work for some people, for their whole lifetime. But for those who start going through Kundalini Awakening… that process begins to flush up all the stuckness so it can be alchemised and liberated.

Navigating the Underworld with clients is a delicate business, because it’s not just their internal landscape, but that of their ancestors, their family of origin (blood or otherwise) and the social construct that they grew up within.

It’s my role to assume nothing, stay open to everything, and be aware of the multitude of different life experiences that clients bring to the table.

Working with a Black, Queer millennial is different from working with a middle-aged cis-gendered white man.

The conditioning is different, the wounding is different, the cultural reference points are different and the perceptual filters are different.

It’s critical that I stay in a space of deep listening and attunement and NEVER assume that I know where we’re going or what’s going to happen.

I let the client’s wisdom guide me, and I trust the unfolding from moment to moment.

This becomes another important teaching for the client, as they begin to make deeper and more regular contact with their own wisdom and discover trust in their Self. This is why I don’t position myself as the expert or authority – I am the Guide, the Mentor, the Coach… supporting the client as they discover that they are their own authority and expert on themselves.

Back to that Kundalini Awakening Coaching client experiencing fear when they focus on their breath.

Usually, my approach is to go into the fear, whilst supporting the client to fully feel it all the way through. On the other side, there is usually a profound sense of trust or being at home within the body.

Sometimes this can take one session, sometimes it might take three or four.

But with this client, after some preliminary descents into their Underworld, I felt like something else was needed here.

I switched it up, and suggested that the client change practices. No more breath-focused practices, for now.

Instead, my suggestion was to move to sensory-focused practices.

This supports the embodiment process – that of shifting out of perceiving reality through the mind, and instead perceiving reality directly (before we have a thought about it) – whilst also training single-pointed focus.

My client emailed me a few days after this session and shared:

“I had become stuck on “You need to do breathing or you’re doing it wrong and ignoring your fear.” It (This new approach) feels like a reclamation of how I’ve done things differently than “the standard” and that’s more than okay.”

This is awesome for a few reasons.

1. The client is demonstrating self-reflection and ownership of their process – which is what I seek to foster in all my client work.

I’m creating the scaffolding so clients can learn and practice a new way to move in the world, that allows for awakening and liberation to seamlessly unfold from moment to moment. Reflection and ownership of one’s process are foundation stones of this work.

2. It reveals an aspect of the psyche still running – the fear of getting it wrong.

This is extremely common for most humans on the path, and it’s SUCH a shift when clients stumble into the field that exists beyond right & wrong. Yes, that place does exist, and it’s possible to live from it! It’s another foundation stone when I work with people – supporting them to dissolve the filter that projects right/wrong onto external reality.

3. It also reveals a strength the client has – of successfully doing life ‘their own way’.

It provides a further jumping off point for our work together. This could naturally lead to potent Embodied Inquiries when navigating life, leaning on this ability to do it ‘their own way’. These kind of navigation tools are something I support clients to develop and practice while we’re in a container together, so by the time they exit, they can continue to do this work using those tools.

All of this was revealed from the client’s brief reply to my session follow-up email. (Yes, I send every client a detailed follow-up email after our session, and no, I do not use AI for it. I use my own hand typed notes and process of analysis.)

This is the process of being in containers with me – a process of guided self-discovery and empowerment, and the tools that support this.

It allows clients to recognize the territory they are now walking on the Kundalini Awakening path, so they know how to approach life as it unfolds.

Because ultimately, this path of awakening is not about WHAT is happening, but rather HOW you are perceiving it.

Learn how to perceive things in the most beenficial way, and the path becomes that much easier.

Not because the WHAT has changed but because the client’s perception of reality has matured.

That’s what it’s really all about it!